The Voices in Your Head Don't Get the Final Say

It's 11 o'clock at night and you're replaying a conversation from this afternoon. Or rewriting a text for the fourth time. Or stuck on a decision that should have taken five minutes, and now it's been three days and seventeen open tabs.

If your brain feels like a room full of people all talking at once, you're not alone.

That's how I think about it: there's a whole meeting going on in my head. One voice is worried about what people will think. One is replaying every mistake I've ever made. One wants a guarantee before I make a single move. And every one of them thinks they're in charge.

Here's the thing: they're allowed to talk. They're just not allowed to run the meeting.

Most of the time, overthinking isn't about what actually happened. It's about the story your brain builds on top of it. She didn't text back turns into she's mad at me. I made one mistake turns into I'm terrible at this. The facts are usually small. The story is where the spiral lives.

Look at them side by side. Then make your next move based on the first line, not the second.

You don't have to silence every voice to move forward. You just have to remember who gets the final say.

Hint: it's you. You get the chair.

This is the whole heart of my book, Be Fucking Real. Coming soon.

Always, be real. ♥